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Claire Maly, Clinical Graduate Intern
College is supposed to be the “best years of your life,” right? New friends, exciting classes, endless opportunities. But here’s a truth that doesn’t get talked about enough: many students feel lonely at some point—and that’s completely normal.
Why Loneliness Happens
- Homesickness: Missing family, old friends, a beloved pet, or even your favorite local coffee shop can leave a surprising void.
- Social Media: Have you ever heard the phrase, “comparison is the root of discontentment”? Scrolling through feeds full of smiling groups can make it feel like everyone else is thriving, even when that’s often not the full story. Comparing ourselves to the carefully curated posts of others can deepen feelings of inferiority and isolation.
- Isolation: Between the demands of classes, studying, jobs, and family commitments, it can be easy to slip into routines that don’t leave much space for connection.
You’re Not the Only One
It’s important to remember that loneliness is a normal part of adjusting to new life chapters. Many students, even those who appear confident and surrounded by friends, wrestle with these same emotions. Acknowledging that you’re not alone in feeling this way can be the first step toward easing the weight of loneliness.
What Helps
- Try campus events: Joining one of BU’s amazing clubs, attending a sporting event with your roommate, or talking with your RA about ways to get involved can connect you with people who have similar interests.
- Volunteer: Helping out within the community not only feels good, but it also builds purpose while opening the door to new friendships.
- Reach out: Invite a classmate to coffee, join a study session, or send a simple text to say hello. Sometimes it only takes a small step to spark connection with others.
When to Get Extra Support
If the heaviness sticks around and you are finding yourself increasingly isolated, sad, anxious, or using substances to cope, you don’t have to handle it alone. The Counseling Center in Krasa (Room 010) is here to help. We are here to support you in your feelings of loneliness and help you move toward a college experience that is more connected and enjoyable.
Loneliness in college is not a sign you’re failing—it’s simply part of being human. Reaching out, even in small ways, can open the door to real friendships and meaningful connections.
